The following is a rough guide to the subjects I cover in my Adolescent Relationship talk however it is important to point out that each talk is tailored to the age and needs of the groups I speak to.
I also am happy to respect the wishes of each school with regard to subjects covered and content. If a school has a particular issue that they are concerned about I am happy to incorporate it into the talk.
In Year 9 we would address issues such as confidentiality, consent, teenage pregnancy, alcohol and sex.
A talk to Year 11 will be more focused on relationships, peer pressure and delaying early intercourse.
Sixth form may require information relating to the new forms of contraception available and the dangers they may encounter whilst traveling on a Gap year or starting at University.
I am happy to talk about Contraception but this is a big subject and really needs a session of its own as is the case with Sexually Transmitted Infections, although I do touch on both subjects in my talk.
I have found that by working in partnership with schools and their PSHE tutors the introduction of a rolling programme is the ideal. Speaking to the students at year 9 or 10 enables me to give them basic information about contraception and sexual health with the main emphasis focusing on relationships ,coping with peer pressure and delaying early intercourse. In year 11 and 12 it is then possible to revisit these areas in more depth and reinforce the need for safety and responsibility at all times.
We are also very happy to address parents, staff and pastoral care teams. These talks tend to center around communicating with their children about sex and relationships, how to go about it and why it is so important.
- Individual rights
- The law
- The medical profession
- Frasier Guidelines.
The age of legal consent to have sex:
- When it is legal to have sex and when it is not
- The law/ Police/ Social services and child protection
- The possible consequences if prosecuted for having underage sex
- What constitutes a sexual act?
Emphasis on the fact that 3 out of 4 people under the age of 16 are not having sex.
Delaying early intercourse.
Influences of advertising, media and celebrity.
Understanding the issues around sexuality:
- Straight, gay, bisexual?
Waiting until you are ready to have sex and understanding when that time is.
UNDERSTANDING THAT THERE IS A CHOICE:
- Making sure that it feels right
- No fear of regret, shame or guilt
- What do you want from the relationship
- Considering how it will change the relationship
- How will it affect your boyfriend/girlfriend?
- Are you sure it is what you want?
- Have you discussed contraception and safe sex?
Understanding and respecting that some people choose not to have sex:
- Religion / Culture
- Personal choice
Avoiding peer pressure to have sex.
The dangers associated with alcohol, drugs and sex.
Date rape – staying safe when you are out with friends.
The devastating effects of teenage pregnancy:
What to do if you have a condom failure:
- Emergency contraception
- How to access it.
Sexually Transmitted Infections/diseases:
- How you catch them
- Signs and Symptoms
- How to get tested and treated
- G.U.M. Clinics
- Contact Tracing.
Talking to your parents about Sex!
(Why it is important to try and do this)
Taking a gap year, issues to consider whilst traveling.
Respect for others.
Responsibility for your actions.
How and where to get help should you need it.
Not being afraid to get help.